More lessons on faith

The past few years have seen several relationships come to their ends. And I'm not referring to couples who've been dating for a mere year or two. I'm talking people who've been together for almost a decade or more, model relationships that others look towards and sculpt their own relationships against....people who are important to me...

Even the practical me who believes in eventuality and never accepts anything as being remotely perpetual has had some faith, at some point of time, in relationships that last.

But the most recent break-up did it. I've completely lost the notion that once one becomes nicely settled in a relationship, one can rest upon one's laurels, take who and what you have for granted.

If I may quote a friend, whose words so aptly penned brought across so readily, what he is going through at this point in time.....

"....I pranced around blissfully, totally oblivious to the winds of change. On hindsight, I should have seen it coming. I guess we see what we want to see. I ignored the danger signs because I believe in fairy tales.

The clapping got softer during the last three years. I did not know, or choose not to know. We were no longer communicating. I guess these matters are now unimportant. The straw that broke the camel’s back is but a red herring. There are more fundamental issues. The two hands have stopped clapping.

There is no right or wrong when you are in love. There is a safety net there. All comments, criticisms, idiosyncrasies are filtered by the safety net. There is no analysis on WHY one said that, WHY one can't let me be.

Love does not follow reason. The day you stop loving someone is the day you become logical in your analysis. What I say/do is then measured /challenged /analyzed. Love, after all, is a feeling, there is no logic to it. You take the other person, warts and all, and cherish him/her till death. When there is no more love, the warts appear red and ugly...."

The greatest folly of all is when we think all is well, as long as there is communication. Communication is not really enough. You need a lot of luck too, and perhaps, a helping hand from the supreme being above. Truth is, communication is often biased. We hear what we want to hear, see what we want to see and ignore all the red flags.

Faith is not always good. Sometimes I think it is faith which is our undoing. For is it not due to faith that so many individuals, romantics or otherwise, once believed that the other person would forever love them?